What defines you?

How the False Self Gets Created?




The False Self is an artificial persona that people create very early in life to protect themselves from re-experiencing developmental trauma, shock, and stress in close relationships. This False or “public” Self appears polite and well-mannered, and puts on a “show of being real.” Internally, they feel empty, dead or “phoney,” unable to be spontaneous and alive, and to show their True Self in any part of their lives.



Children create a False Self because they do not have enough emotional and social support to become emotionally and psychologically separate from their parents. This adapted Self can be either deflated and co-dependent or inflated and counter-dependent. The False Self

The codependent, deflated False Self is designed to please parents and maintain their conditional love. The counter-dependent inflated is designed to protect children from feeling their unmet dependency needs by maintaining a distance between themselves and their parents. Unfortunately, the True Self which operates from a sense of integrity, personal authenticity and connection to wholeness gets sacrificed in both adaptive processes.

The deflated co-dependent False Self is a protective defense that helps children sustain their need for comforting intimacy and attunement with their mother, and to prolong the feelings of safety associated with the codependent stage of development. This co-dependent behavior also keeps people feeling weak and vulnerable, with strong needs to attach to others who seem stronger and more capable.

Illustration from Fight Club


Your condition is like that of the people of Pharoah (Q8:52)


Materialism Worldviews


Pharaoh called to his people, saying, ´My people, does the kingdom of Egypt not belong to me? Do not all these rivers flow under my control? Do you not then see? Am I not better than this man who is contemptible and can scarcely make anything clear? Why have gold bracelets not been put upon his arms and why is there not a train of angels accompanying him?´


In that way Pharaoh fooled his people, and they obeyed him. They were wicked people. (Q43:51-54)


Have you seen the one who has taken his ego ("things/emotions") ..


... as his GOD?  (Q25:43)

ISSUE: The things you own ...



There is a very interesting debate raging at the moment about the nature of sin,
for example,”said Oats.
“And what do they think? Against it, are they?” said Granny Weatherwax.
“It’s not as simple as that. It’s not a black and white issue. There are so many shades of gray.”
“Nope.”
“Pardon?”
“There’s no grays, only white that’s got grubby. I’m surprised you don’t know that. And sin, young man, is when you treat people as things. Including yourself. That’s what sin is.
“It’s a lot more complicated than that . . .”
“No. It ain’t. When people say things are a lot more complicated than that, they means they’re getting worried that they won’t like the truth. People as things, that’s where it starts.”
“Oh, I’m sure there are worse crimes . . .”
“But they starts with thinking about people as things . . . ”



Illustration from the Quran (What defines you?)
Because of that We showed Ibrahim the dominions of the heavens and the earth so that he might be one of the people of certainty.
When night covered him he saw a star ("things") and said,
"This is my Lord!"
Then when it set he said, "I do not love what sets."
Then when he saw the moon ("things") come up he said,
"This is my Lord!"
Then when it set he said, "If my Lord does not guide me,
I will be one of the misguided people."
Then when he saw the sun ("things") come up
he said, "This is my Lord! This is greater!"
Then when it set he said,
"My people, I am free of what you associate with Allah (Energy)!
I have turned my face to Him Who (Energy)
manifested the heavens and earth into being (reality),
a pure natural believer (Hanif, Sunnatullah Alone).
I am not one of the mushrikun ("things" .. star, moon and sun)."
(Q6:75-79)
So Ibrahim smashed them up to pieces with the exception of the biggest ...


...so that they may turn to it. (Q21:58)


The mushriks are utterly filthy! (Q9:28)



So do not let their possessions or their children impress you: through these God intends to punish them in this world and for their souls to depart while they disbelieve.They swear by God that they belong with you [believers, "Men Together", soul's integrity, truth oriented], but they do not. They are cowardly  (+ approval junkies): if they could find a place of refuge, or a cave, or somewhere to crawl into, they would run there with great haste. (Q9:55-57)



Which of you is mad? (Q68:6)


delusion.n. an idiosyncratic belief or impression maintained despite being contradicted by reality or rational argument, typically as a symptom of mental disorder.


insanity. n. mental illness (mental disorder) of such a severe nature that a person cannot distinguish fantasy from reality

The really hopeless victims of mental illness are to be found among those who appear to be most normal. Many of them are normal because they are so well adjusted to our mode of existence because their human voice has been silenced so early in their lives, that they do not even struggle or suffer or develop symptoms as the neurotic does. They are normal not in what may be called the absolute sense of the word; they are normal only in relation to a profoundly abnormal society. Their perfect adjustment to that abnormal society is a measure of their mental sickness.


These millions of abnormally normal people, living without fuss in a society to which, if they were fully human beings, they ought not to be adjusted, still cherish "the illusion of individuality," but in fact they have been to a great extent deindividualized. Their conformity is developing into something like uniformity. But "uniformity and freedom are incompatible. Uniformity and mental health are incompatible too .... Man is not made to be an automaton, and if he becomes one, the basis for mental health is destroyed." ~ Aldous Huxley



The foundation for insanity.


Some are insane and others are not, and that the difference is determined by NATURE and not by cultural forces, factors, forced justice or religion.

They are like asses carrying books! (Q62:5)



Brainwashed nation - people of the book


For the ugliest of all voices/arguments is the braying of asses. (Q31:19)

People of the Book (of Forced Justice / Brainwashed Nation) ... it is a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy.... men are born ignorant, not stupid. They are made stupid by education (brainwashed)



The hypocrites


"Cowardice is impotence worse than violence. The coward desires revenge but being afraid to die, he looks to others, maybe to the government of the day, to do the work of defense for him. A coward is less than a man. He does not deserve to be a member of a society of men and women (They belong neither to you nor to them. 58:14/4:143)." Mahatma Gandhi


When the hypocrites come to you they say, "We bear witness that you are indeed the Messenger of Allah/Natural Justice." Allah/Way of Allah/LordLaw of Nature knows/proves that you are indeed His Messenger and Allah/Natural Justice bears witness that the hypocrites are certainly liars.

They have made their syahada into a cloak and barred the Way of Allah (truth, sunnatullah alone). What they have done is truly evil. That is because they have had iman and then returned to kufr [If they had had iman in Allah and the Prophet and what has been sent down to him, they would not have taken them as friends. 5:81 The pure natural believers should not take kafirun as friends rather than pure natural believers. Anyone who does that has nothing to do with Allah at all 3:28 They belong neither to you nor to them. 58:14/4:143  It is they who are Satan’s army. 58:19 The hypocrites/cowardice are in the lowest level of the Fire. 4:145]. So their hearts have been sealed up and they cannot understand.

When you see them, their outward form appeals to you, and if they speak you listen to what they say.


But they are like propped-up planks of wood (USELESS). They imagine every cry to be against them. They are the real enemy, so beware of them. Allah fight them! How they are perverted!


When they are told, ´Come, and the Messenger of Allah will ask forgiveness for you,´ they turn their heads and you see them turn away in haughty arrogance. In their case it makes no difference whether you ask forgiveness for them or do not ask forgiveness for them. Allah will never forgive them. Allah does not guide deviant people. (Q63:1-6)

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